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Character and presence is what separates change technicians who submit deliverables and meet timelines from masterful change practitioners who dispense valuable insight and wisdom.
Raising Your Game, a two-day advanced program sponsored by the Center for Leadership Studies, is designed for seasoned change practitioners who are committed to increasing the level of their effectiveness through focusing on who they are, not just what they do. It provides guidance, experiences, and resources for those interested in learning how their character and presence impacts their work. Please join me September 19-20 in Atlanta GA or December 5-6 in Hartford CT. Click here to learn more.
Mindfully Holding Space (free eBook)
Categories: Holding Space
I’ve been “holding space” (creating environments where clients can feel safe and supported while resolving important issues) for as long as I can remember. I am so accustomed to applying it in my work that, until recently, it never occurred to me to examine what the term really meant or how I actually went about doing it. For the most part, it was something I did spontaneously without a lot of thought.
At some point, however, I started taking notice of the language I was using when I referred to it. Two questions surfaced that I didn’t have answers to:
I began paying more attention to my own actions and talking to and observing other practitioners to find out what they did when holding space for clients. I found so many variations to what it meant and how to do it that I was left with more questions than answers.
Almost everyone I asked felt that holding space is a way to help clients come to their own conclusions without giving them answers or recommendations. Beyond that, however, I couldn’t find much similar ground. When it comes to processes or even definitions of key variables, there seems to be very little consistency in our professional community.
I finally determined that for many of us (myself included), there are essentially one of two approaches to holding space:
I found myself squarely in the second category. Once I realized that I couldn’t adequately explain to myself, much less to anyone else, how I went about holding space, I felt an obligation to do something about it. That turned into a project of looking at my own experience to more clearly understand what was important for me about this activity and then sharing in the blog whatever I learned. Because Change Thinking is dedicated to exploring the who we are side of practicing our craft (as well as the what we do aspects), I sought to not only delve deeper into what holding space meant for me, but also to examine it through the lens of its relationship to character and presence.
The ensuing investigation proved to be far more extensive than I anticipated. When I finally finished the last draft, I realized what had unfolded didn’t fit within the blog format, so instead of releasing it in multiple postings, I decided to create an eBook that you can view or download here.
If holding space for clients is an intervention you are familiar with and have an interest in, I invite you to read the document. Please keep something in mind however—this is not an attempt to describe the “right” way to hold space; it is my view on one way. The intended audience for this blog is seasoned practitioners…most of whom are familiar with the concept, if not the practice, of holding space. I’m sharing my thoughts not as a model to necessarily adopt, but as an example of what can be learned when we explore for ourselves how we each engage the holding space process.
You may choose to incorporate some of the aspects I uncovered for myself into your practice, but that’s not my main purpose here. Ultimately, my hope is that by reading about my conclusions, you will be encouraged to initiate your own exploratory journey—to discover the elements in your process that you value and want to keep front and center as you support clients in this way.
If you are motivated to explore this aspect of your work, please share whatever you learn with others. Only by offering our perspectives to each other about this activity can we advance toward a deeper understanding that will benefit all of us.
Change facilitators who strive to advance who they are as much as what they do when practicing their craft are a relatively small tribe within the broader change professional community. Small, tight-knit tribes are usually able to maintain their centers of gravity more easily than large groups that often struggle to preserve their common denominators. There appears to be an emerging bonding force among practitioners interested in exploring how they show up (not just what to do after showing up). I would describe it as the pursuit of three things:
The introspective work necessary for a serious exploration of the relationship between character, presence, and clients is not for everyone. Most practitioners avoid it altogether or approach it only peripherally. That’s why those who do take this path share a common tie that usually transcends the boundaries that normally keep change practitioners in insular enclaves.
Even with the availability of Internet browsing, an unlimited array of change-related online discussion groups, and a growing number of practitioner associations, far too many seasoned people in our field restrict their exchanges to their own work teams, company/consulting firm, devotees of a particular methodology, or graduates from a certain university or training program. Those who do expose themselves to thinking and experiences outside familiar communication channels are often motivated more by the opportunity to display their knowledge and accomplishments than they are by the prospect of deeply listening to and valuing diverse perspectives and learning from others. There are plenty of exceptions to this kind of closed-mindedness, but more often than not, change practitioners collect themselves into insulated, self-referencing feedback loops that tend to minimize cross-pollination.
When this happens, the boundaries that separate professionals in our field only become stronger as competing egos battle for supremacy. Generally speaking, I haven’t found this to be the case with practitioners eager to delve deep within themselves so they can be better prepared to serve their clients and advance the profession.
Relatively few people are drawn to professional development that focuses on “who we are.” When those people find kindred spirits, they tend to disregard typical restrictions and interact with each other on a free and open basis. To them, the chance to learn from, and be mutually supportive of other practitioners on a similar journey, is more important than being constrained by parochial loyalties.
The ultimate litmus test for this kind of collaboration occurs when crossing competitive lines. Traditionally, few in our profession want to exchange information about something that could foster client effectiveness with anyone from an opposing team. Yet, this is exactly what happens most of the time among practitioners exploring who they are. I believe this is primarily because of the respect and camaraderie that naturally emerges when two or more people exchange views and experiences about something few other people pursue. In the same way that two pioneers meeting in the wilderness stop and offer each other fellowship, solidarity, and assistance, two otherwise competitive change practitioners can find themselves lowering their guard and lifting their interaction to a higher level when they find out they both value who they are as much as what they do.
Minimizing Competitive Shields
Practitioners truly committed to developing how they show up when practicing the craft display a permeability with each other that tends to override the classic protective mechanisms that keep people at a distance. They come together with a common purpose—a desire to raise the stakes on themselves. In doing so, they merge their energy in a way that generates a collective uplift around what they can expect from themselves and each other. It is powerfully unifying to be part of a tribe that not only shares a common purpose, but whose members provide each other the learning and support needed for the journey.
These are special practitioner tribes striving to achieve heights that would be unattainable for some if left to their singular efforts. The bonding agent among them is their belief that they must all make progress together if they are to succeed individually. Each individual’s energy is spread to the other members, and is simultaneously boosted by the combined strength of the tribe. The tribe gains strength as its individuals do, and the collective upsurge enables individual advancement. It doesn’t matter if some in the tribe work for competing organizations; what is more important is the camaraderie that comes with a community that shares a mutual passion.
So why would you want your competitors to care about character and presence?
Prejudices are based on assuming fundamental differences that don’t exist. It is important that we seek out and support all change professionals endeavoring to strengthen the who they are aspect of practicing our craft. Whether they come from within your organization or are competitors from down the street…find practitioners dedicated to exploring who they are and treat them as valued colleagues on the same pilgrimage as you.
The change facilitation community has grown tremendously since the early pioneering days, when there were only a few of us trying to find our way through uncharted territory. Now that executing organizational change is an accepted professional discipline, there is an abundance of both internal and external practitioners; and more join the ranks all the time.
In observing this steady expansion over the years, I’ve noticed an interesting pattern. It appears that the majority of people in our field for five years or more fall into one of three categories:
Of course, this isn’t the only way to segment change facilitators, but these differentiations are useful to the point I want to raise in this post: I believe a person’s investment in the two primary aspects of practicing our craft (What We Do and Who We Are) can be predicted to an extent by knowing which of these categories he or she falls within.
First, I’ll acknowledge the dangers of oversimplifying the complexities of life by pigeonholing people with rigid labels. Yes, we must always be careful when placing people in categories. Also, I don’t mean to imply anything negative about any of the three categories. They each have an inherent logic, purpose, and clearly deliver value to clients. My aim in drawing out these three distinctions is not to declare one better than another. I want to call attention to their implications for pursuing the who we are versus the what we do aspects of being a professional change practitioner.
That said, here are my observations. In general, I have found that those in the A category tend to be more absorbed in learning what to do than in exploring who they are. Bs are interested in how they show up, but are still primarily invested in acquiring new concepts and frameworks. Cs are more inclined to explore how who they are impacts their effectiveness than to add new tools and techniques to their repertoire.
Based on four decades of training thousands of change agents, I’ve seen a clear pattern where it is
Five Characteristics of Category C
Although these are only a few features from the signature pattern of Cs, I hope they call attention to why Cs are the most likely practitioners to engage in a meaningful pursuit of character and presence. Professional change facilitators with these tendencies are the ones who naturally see the value to clients and themselves of strengthening how they show up in their work.
If you see your own reflection in any of the above descriptors, ask yourself if exploring who you are has been a high enough priority in your professional development agenda. If any of the qualities remind you of an associate, consider asking whether he or she has considered delving deeper into how their character and presence impacts their effectiveness with clients. Sometimes, all that is needed to help practitioners start the journey is for them to be recognized (by themselves or someone else) as demonstrating some of the same characteristics as the Cs in our profession who are drawn to this kind of personal exploration.
A Shift in Blog Cadence
A Shift in Blog Cadence
Categories: A Shift in Blog Cadence
Since 2009, I have authored more than 70 series (200+ separate posts) under the Change Thinking banner. When I set out on this writing odyssey, I wanted to maintain a rhythm of publishing one post every week. I have remained true to that pace for almost four years.
I have much more to say about why I feel who we are as change practitioners is at least as important as what we do. How we show up when serving our clients—the character and presence we bring forward—is a much-neglected aspect of practicing our craft and I plan to keep blogging about it for as long as you continue to tell me you are interested in the subject. However, I will no longer post every week. Instead, I am moving to a periodic publishing schedule. By shifting to a slower, less regimented stride, I’ll still be able to keep the character/presence conversation fresh, but I’ll also have time for some other projects I’m eager to launch (more about those in the future).
You can learn when new posts are published by:
I encourage you to draw on what is already in the blog. Just look in the sidebar for multiple ways to find what is available. (You can also click on Glossary in the navigation bar to access dozens of terms reflecting key points from previous postings.)
I look forward to what comes next on this writing journey and I hope you continue to find it of interest. Thanks for your encouragement, support, and participation during Change Thinking’s evolution.