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Yes, I have. The subtle type. The type that often goes overlooked because of a lack of education and the signs of this 'passive aggressive' bullying may not be understood. It may have actually been through Paul's content I was able to identify what I was experiencing as bullying. It affects your confidence and feeling of belonging. The environment was toxic no matter how you look at it. Better off having moved on.
With all possible respect, given you state you intend to present this intensely explosive, personal internal and intimately frightening issue to "A large group," I suggest you consider:
a. First seek the advice of a professional psychologist with proven credentials who now works with adult women and men with such related issues.
b. Understand that while one may try to 'capture' a set of behaviors within a label such as "Bullying,' in fact it includes far broader and deeper issues such as shame, conflict, fear, socio-psychological profiles, gender, early childhood experiences, etc., etc., etc.
c. Respectfully, I suggest those with a serious interest in this topic, as a bare minimum, go to "Google Scholar" to learn what experts have to share on the topic.
Despite the above, if for some reason you still go forward with this, do NOT allow the audience to sit "Wherever."
Seat attendees in small groups of 5 to 7, with, as possible, no less than 2 women per small group, and provide them with a facilitator that assures each person gets to speak for at least 2 to 3 minutes uninterrupted.
Collect cards with their questions that you will respond to after the presentation, from the podium.
WARNING: Have a professional mental health professional in the room for any person who exhibits a reaction to any part fo the dialogue. They do NOT leave until the room and hallways are clear.
Mental health challenges are NOT to be taken as solvable by artificially linking them to the PMI Code of Ethics.
I have been working as a project officer with the UN for over 8 years and did experience bullying at different stages of the project (conception through to closure). People in authority (at various levels) often bully the coworkers or subordinates and even project beneficiaries. Its cancerous. A lot of the projects are delayed, half done and never get completed as a direct result of bullying. When an individual in the team is affected, the project suffers.
I have once worked with autocratic boss. He was workaholic and expected every one to work late and even on holidays.He micromanaged everything, he forced his decision and never listened to anybodies opinion. The working environment was very stressful for everyone who worked under him. Work environment was Toxic.Work stress of such environment affected peoples mental health, they had lost their creativity and self confidence. Lori if you can share the link of your presentation it would be beneficial to others. Also I agree with William, the topic is very sensitive and complex.
I have better fortune in this context. I always get very gentle bosses and team in my entire career.
I would like to share my one experience.
There was one of our SVPs in last to last company who asked too many questions and criticized me badly in meetings or conferences in starting years.
Sometimes these questions were irrelevant to my job and role.
So other team members felt that he was bullying me but i never considered it as Bullying .
Because i always took it as opportunity to think out of box and prepare to myself for any questions and make more confident and extrovert .
After passing some years , He was that person who appreciated to me and gave me more good opportunities to show my work.
We are still in touch on networking sites and he still guide me to be a good manager.
In my point of view , Only Physical harassment is bullying for me because it can be life threat or injure to you.
May be i am wrong on it.
In end , i would like to say " Bullying is a way of looking as Problem "
Yes. I have experienced bullying in my workplace. This was in a global corporate. Though I was a senior manager, managing projects, I was really troubled by the language used by my boss. Though I tried complaining to my super boss and HR, there was no solution.
The bullying totally took away all my strength and energy, which I rebuilt after leaving the organization
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