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I am preparing to give a presentation for a large group of project managers on Bullying and Project Management. There are many excellent resources on this ProjectManagement.com site who have created fantastic presentations and blogs on the topic of bullying - many from Paul Pelletier and others. I've tied these slides in with definitions of what bullying is, why people bully others, who is targeted, how it feels to be bullied, what the costs of bullying are to a company or to a team, the results of bullying, more subtle things that people do (eye rolling, gossiping, etc.) that are bullying behaviors, what to do when witnessing bullying, how to stand up to bullying, ways to help prevent bullying, the difference between normal conflict and bullying and tied it all in with our PMI code of ethics. Is there anything else I should include in my presentation? Have you ever experienced bullying in the workplace? If so, would you be willing to share your experience with me?
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Yes, I have. The subtle type. The type that often goes overlooked because of a lack of education and the signs of this 'passive aggressive' bullying may not be understood. It may have actually been through Paul's content I was able to identify what I was experiencing as bullying. It affects your confidence and feeling of belonging. The environment was toxic no matter how you look at it. Better off having moved on.
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Jan 25, 2019 12:05 AM
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Hi Andrew: The passive aggressive type of bullying is hard to deal with for sure. It is hurtful and I feel like Paul described it so well I was able to identify better too. Thank you for sharing your experience, for responding to this question and I'm glad you were able to move on from those experiences to something better. When we bring topics like this out in the open and bring awareness and education about this we can begin to create change.
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With all possible respect, given you state you intend to present this intensely explosive, personal internal and intimately frightening issue to "A large group," I suggest you consider:
a. First seek the advice of a professional psychologist with proven credentials who now works with adult women and men with such related issues.
b. Understand that while one may try to 'capture' a set of behaviors within a label such as "Bullying,' in fact it includes far broader and deeper issues such as shame, conflict, fear, socio-psychological profiles, gender, early childhood experiences, etc., etc., etc.
c. Respectfully, I suggest those with a serious interest in this topic, as a bare minimum, go to "Google Scholar" to learn what experts have to share on the topic.

Despite the above, if for some reason you still go forward with this, do NOT allow the audience to sit "Wherever."

Seat attendees in small groups of 5 to 7, with, as possible, no less than 2 women per small group, and provide them with a facilitator that assures each person gets to speak for at least 2 to 3 minutes uninterrupted.

Collect cards with their questions that you will respond to after the presentation, from the podium.

WARNING: Have a professional mental health professional in the room for any person who exhibits a reaction to any part fo the dialogue. They do NOT leave until the room and hallways are clear.
Mental health challenges are NOT to be taken as solvable by artificially linking them to the PMI Code of Ethics.
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1 reply by LORI WILSON
Jan 25, 2019 12:09 AM
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Hello William: Thank you so much for sharing your perspective on this with me. Your genuine concerns for others who have been hurt by bullying comes across in your message and I will definitely take into consideration your advice before moving forward. Being sensitive to the pain others feel is very important to me. You sound very knowledgeable on this topic and I am very grateful you shared your thoughts with me.
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I have been working as a project officer with the UN for over 8 years and did experience bullying at different stages of the project (conception through to closure). People in authority (at various levels) often bully the coworkers or subordinates and even project beneficiaries. Its cancerous. A lot of the projects are delayed, half done and never get completed as a direct result of bullying. When an individual in the team is affected, the project suffers.
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Jan 25, 2019 12:15 AM
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Hello David: Thank you so much for being willing to share your personal experience as a project officer with the UN. Can you imagine what a different business world it would be if people who had the power and authority used it to inspire and support others? I have been so shocked to have my eyes open to how many people suffer bullying in the workplace. You are right to conclude that projects suffer when individuals have been treated unfairly. I wonder if this is part of the reason that so many projects fail? Would there be different outcomes if teams were treated with respect and fairness? I'm not trying to be idealistic, its just fascinating to think about what power we all have as individuals and how careful we should be in our interactions with others. I hope that your current work environment is better now, and thank you again for being willing to share your experiences with us. This is how we begin to working together to create awareness and change.
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I have once worked with autocratic boss. He was workaholic and expected every one to work late and even on holidays.He micromanaged everything, he forced his decision and never listened to anybodies opinion. The working environment was very stressful for everyone who worked under him. Work environment was Toxic.Work stress of such environment affected peoples mental health, they had lost their creativity and self confidence. Lori if you can share the link of your presentation it would be beneficial to others. Also I agree with William, the topic is very sensitive and complex.
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Jan 25, 2019 12:21 AM
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Thank you, Sunil, for responding to this discussion and for sharing your experience with bullying in the workplace. It is so hard to be creative, to build teams and to even breathe when being micromanaged. The situation you described seemed so challenging, and I hope you have moved onto something where you can thrive instead of being so stifled. I will definitely plan on sharing my slides on this subject and would be honored if you would provide any feedback when I do. The presentation is planned for April, so I will probably have the slides completed in the next month or so. Your voice raised in this discussion board helps others realize they are not the only ones who have experienced pain in the workplace. Thank you so much for being willing to share your story with us.
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Jan 24, 2019 5:02 PM
Replying to Andrew Craig
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Yes, I have. The subtle type. The type that often goes overlooked because of a lack of education and the signs of this 'passive aggressive' bullying may not be understood. It may have actually been through Paul's content I was able to identify what I was experiencing as bullying. It affects your confidence and feeling of belonging. The environment was toxic no matter how you look at it. Better off having moved on.
Hi Andrew: The passive aggressive type of bullying is hard to deal with for sure. It is hurtful and I feel like Paul described it so well I was able to identify better too. Thank you for sharing your experience, for responding to this question and I'm glad you were able to move on from those experiences to something better. When we bring topics like this out in the open and bring awareness and education about this we can begin to create change.
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Jan 24, 2019 6:17 PM
Replying to William M Hayden Jr
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With all possible respect, given you state you intend to present this intensely explosive, personal internal and intimately frightening issue to "A large group," I suggest you consider:
a. First seek the advice of a professional psychologist with proven credentials who now works with adult women and men with such related issues.
b. Understand that while one may try to 'capture' a set of behaviors within a label such as "Bullying,' in fact it includes far broader and deeper issues such as shame, conflict, fear, socio-psychological profiles, gender, early childhood experiences, etc., etc., etc.
c. Respectfully, I suggest those with a serious interest in this topic, as a bare minimum, go to "Google Scholar" to learn what experts have to share on the topic.

Despite the above, if for some reason you still go forward with this, do NOT allow the audience to sit "Wherever."

Seat attendees in small groups of 5 to 7, with, as possible, no less than 2 women per small group, and provide them with a facilitator that assures each person gets to speak for at least 2 to 3 minutes uninterrupted.

Collect cards with their questions that you will respond to after the presentation, from the podium.

WARNING: Have a professional mental health professional in the room for any person who exhibits a reaction to any part fo the dialogue. They do NOT leave until the room and hallways are clear.
Mental health challenges are NOT to be taken as solvable by artificially linking them to the PMI Code of Ethics.
Hello William: Thank you so much for sharing your perspective on this with me. Your genuine concerns for others who have been hurt by bullying comes across in your message and I will definitely take into consideration your advice before moving forward. Being sensitive to the pain others feel is very important to me. You sound very knowledgeable on this topic and I am very grateful you shared your thoughts with me.
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Jan 24, 2019 6:19 PM
Replying to David Glama
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I have been working as a project officer with the UN for over 8 years and did experience bullying at different stages of the project (conception through to closure). People in authority (at various levels) often bully the coworkers or subordinates and even project beneficiaries. Its cancerous. A lot of the projects are delayed, half done and never get completed as a direct result of bullying. When an individual in the team is affected, the project suffers.
Hello David: Thank you so much for being willing to share your personal experience as a project officer with the UN. Can you imagine what a different business world it would be if people who had the power and authority used it to inspire and support others? I have been so shocked to have my eyes open to how many people suffer bullying in the workplace. You are right to conclude that projects suffer when individuals have been treated unfairly. I wonder if this is part of the reason that so many projects fail? Would there be different outcomes if teams were treated with respect and fairness? I'm not trying to be idealistic, its just fascinating to think about what power we all have as individuals and how careful we should be in our interactions with others. I hope that your current work environment is better now, and thank you again for being willing to share your experiences with us. This is how we begin to working together to create awareness and change.
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Jan 24, 2019 9:47 PM
Replying to Sunil Dalvi
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I have once worked with autocratic boss. He was workaholic and expected every one to work late and even on holidays.He micromanaged everything, he forced his decision and never listened to anybodies opinion. The working environment was very stressful for everyone who worked under him. Work environment was Toxic.Work stress of such environment affected peoples mental health, they had lost their creativity and self confidence. Lori if you can share the link of your presentation it would be beneficial to others. Also I agree with William, the topic is very sensitive and complex.
Thank you, Sunil, for responding to this discussion and for sharing your experience with bullying in the workplace. It is so hard to be creative, to build teams and to even breathe when being micromanaged. The situation you described seemed so challenging, and I hope you have moved onto something where you can thrive instead of being so stifled. I will definitely plan on sharing my slides on this subject and would be honored if you would provide any feedback when I do. The presentation is planned for April, so I will probably have the slides completed in the next month or so. Your voice raised in this discussion board helps others realize they are not the only ones who have experienced pain in the workplace. Thank you so much for being willing to share your story with us.
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I have better fortune in this context. I always get very gentle bosses and team in my entire career.
I would like to share my one experience.
There was one of our SVPs in last to last company who asked too many questions and criticized me badly in meetings or conferences in starting years.
Sometimes these questions were irrelevant to my job and role.
So other team members felt that he was bullying me but i never considered it as Bullying .
Because i always took it as opportunity to think out of box and prepare to myself for any questions and make more confident and extrovert .
After passing some years , He was that person who appreciated to me and gave me more good opportunities to show my work.

We are still in touch on networking sites and he still guide me to be a good manager.

In my point of view , Only Physical harassment is bullying for me because it can be life threat or injure to you.
May be i am wrong on it.

In end , i would like to say " Bullying is a way of looking as Problem "
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Yes. I have experienced bullying in my workplace. This was in a global corporate. Though I was a senior manager, managing projects, I was really troubled by the language used by my boss. Though I tried complaining to my super boss and HR, there was no solution.

The bullying totally took away all my strength and energy, which I rebuilt after leaving the organization
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