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Sorry for your losses.
I would say find people you can talk about your sadness in your private life or close work relation. It needs time, but don't bury it.
Lot of times Lori, believe me. In fact, because my personal experiences, I start researching on this matter in 1986 and I have published articles due to this type of things are related to other things I am researching too (consciousness, quantum mechanics, physics and human behavor, genetic, neuroscience, etc). All my research is too far from pseudoscience just to be clear. Unfortunatelly I can not write here something related you ask because english is not my first language and there are some terms that need to be understanding very well, without ambiguity and I am not able to manage that in my basic english. I´m sorry. The only thing I can say is take care of yourself because the energy needs to manifest itself in one way or another and that changes our genetic program and can cause diseases. Good to read you are talking about that. My last comment: in the phase I understand you are please do not try to understand why? those things happened. It will be time from that in the future if you decide to do that.
I am so very sorry for the losses shared by everyone on this post and I thank Lori for raising such an important topic.
It is refreshing to see a discussion on how our personal lives spill over into our professions. At times in my career I have felt some employers have preferred to keep the two separate but the reality is that every component of our life is intertwined.
This past October I lost my 13 month old son in his sleep. No health problems and the autopsy has shown no cause of death. For me coping has involved:
- Returning to familiar routines, places and people in small but increasing measures as quickly as possible (the "new normal").
- Joining a small men's group for support and encouragement
- Reading books and blogs about others who have experienced similar tragedies and understanding how they deal with the pain
- Crying about it: alone, with my wife, with close friends who understand
- Acknowledging the pain and senselessness of it all, and allowing myself whatever time is needed to heal. I am grateful for an employer who allowed unquestioned time to grieve with my family.
Personally, I can now empathize deeply with others who share the same experience. Professionally, it has further changed my perspective on what is truly important and the value of appropriate priorities in life. Project delays and scope changes seem much less stressful now.
Again, a welcome and meaningful post. Thank you.
You hit the nail on the head when you indicated that "project delays and scope changes seem much less stressful now". Death of a loved one really refocuses your priorities. You realize that you gain nothing by stressing over the unimportant things.
Talk about a welcome and meaningful post. Thanks, Stephen!
Sorry for your losses and to hear that you are going through this at the moment.
I hear you loud and clear. 2019 was in a way and on a personal level, a sad year for me but I've learned to be strong and learn that life goes on. It can be tough but we can do nothing about what we can't control.
I hope the coming days will be better days for you and your loved ones and I am here for your if you need any support or a friend to talk to.
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