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Very sorry to hear about your losses Lori. We often hear how people distinguish between their family, social and work lives. That should not be the case. You have shown here that we can use this platform to express, share & care for one another. And remind ourselves "don't bury it" quoting Vincent, but to let it out. For that thank you & be Blessed!
Sorry for what happened.
Life is like that. This is what it is.
I do support Kiron's idea.
Life and adversity meet us everyday and challenges us as individuals, communities organisations and countries. You have taken the first step by reaching out to this community, sharing your experience and looking for support. On that I commend you and urge you not to lose that spark, enthusiasm that you have for your job. Sometimes it is that we do not know how to grieve a loss that is the issue and instead we go into auto pilot state and shock and sadness grip us. Give yourself time to grieve but at the same time know when it time to move on and focus on your own life and happiness as any loved one would want you to do. Most importantly ask and seek support from those around you as they know you best and only want the best for you. Best wishes
Thank you for your “heartbroken” post, and I’m truly sorry for your losses. I can also relate as my family has struggled with grief over the loss of our 3.5-year-old grandson, who died from a rare mitochondrial disorder. Even though the intensity of the grief has lessened over the years, we are still in touch with it. I had experienced grief many times before in my life, but when it is one of the “little ones,” it takes on a completely different dimension.
Here are some personal thoughts on grief, based on my experience:
- Grief affects everyone differently, and there is no resolution to it, nor should there be. It’s not something that you can “just simply get over,” it’s a process that serves a purpose to our wellbeing when properly managed. To cope with grief, you need to accept it as your companion, a friend who is visiting, possibly for an extended time. Through this acceptance, the visit can be fruitful, and after a time, your friend may move on and then come back to visit on special occasions. However, if you do not accept your companion, the visit may overwhelm you, and you may retreat to places where you feel you can escape. Unfortunately, this isolation normally takes you into further dimensions of pain, so acceptance is key.
There’s a faith-based support program called “Grief Share,” which is a program for anyone experiencing grief in their life. You don’t need to be of faith to be part of the program; it is for anyone. Thank you, Lori, for opening up a discussion on this topic.
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