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From Profession to Personal, Are Our Home Lives Impacted?
This is for more experienced PM's,

I have not yet entered the field, so I am looking for guidance. I want to make sure I have a balanced profession-to-personal ratio. Do you find that there are certain PM skills that don't necessarily help with "family situations"? Perhaps you tend to micromanage or have strict risk management with your children's lifestyle. Do you see how the PM skills have benefited your home life? I can even see potential for the reversal as well. Maybe you are at work one day and are dealing with a younger client, the same age as your child at home (20's). How does the relationship with your child at home influence how you deal with this client. Is there anything to be said about this?

I appreciate any replies
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It is simple: you never will be in a position where you do not want to be.
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1 reply by Brenden Murphy
Dec 05, 2016 2:22 PM
Brenden Murphy
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I find this very true! I know some of my friends on the other hand can't even fathom the idea of "liking there job". I definitely see that PM's are very adamant about their jobs. This is motivational. When I see a community like PMI I know that this is a very serious business. I am a workaholic. Joining PMI seems like I am on the right track. I get to hear great viewpoints from successful individuals such as yourself.
Excellent Question Brendon.

From my point of view and experience, the answer is absolutely yes. Managing a project is not very different than managing your life in terms of how you deal with things:

You plan you day
You plan your kids future
You play with your kids
You hang out with your family (Builds Trust & Enhance the relationship)

Project Management teaches you a lot of things that might reflect positively on your home but this doesn't come in a day and night. It takes lots of years to develop skills like self discipline, communication, wisdom, leadership, and so on. Those skills will definitely reflect on how you deal with you family in a way or another.
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1 reply by Brenden Murphy
Dec 05, 2016 2:24 PM
Brenden Murphy
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I love your comparison to the home. I think PM's are very good at dividing their work and play. However, they diversify when and where they use skills from both sides. This makes conversations with individuals like yourself very fun! Credibility and trust seem to be a hot topic for PM's, so thanks for bringing those up. I appreciate the advice!
Dec 05, 2016 1:38 PM
Replying to Sergio Luis Conte
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It is simple: you never will be in a position where you do not want to be.
I find this very true! I know some of my friends on the other hand can't even fathom the idea of "liking there job". I definitely see that PM's are very adamant about their jobs. This is motivational. When I see a community like PMI I know that this is a very serious business. I am a workaholic. Joining PMI seems like I am on the right track. I get to hear great viewpoints from successful individuals such as yourself.
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1 reply by Sergio Luis Conte
Dec 05, 2016 2:38 PM
Sergio Luis Conte
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As I tried to pointed out (perhaps because english is not my native language I did not achieve it): you are in control of your actions. And taking what you wrote: you have to define what is a "successful individual" for you. After that you have to plan your actions to achieve that without forget that you have to assume all the reactions from actions you will generate. The world is simple. The only thing you have to do to understand the world is to read and understand the Isaac Newtons Laws of Motion, mainly the third one.
Dec 05, 2016 1:51 PM
Replying to Rami Kaibni
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Excellent Question Brendon.

From my point of view and experience, the answer is absolutely yes. Managing a project is not very different than managing your life in terms of how you deal with things:

You plan you day
You plan your kids future
You play with your kids
You hang out with your family (Builds Trust & Enhance the relationship)

Project Management teaches you a lot of things that might reflect positively on your home but this doesn't come in a day and night. It takes lots of years to develop skills like self discipline, communication, wisdom, leadership, and so on. Those skills will definitely reflect on how you deal with you family in a way or another.
I love your comparison to the home. I think PM's are very good at dividing their work and play. However, they diversify when and where they use skills from both sides. This makes conversations with individuals like yourself very fun! Credibility and trust seem to be a hot topic for PM's, so thanks for bringing those up. I appreciate the advice!
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1 reply by Rami Kaibni
Dec 05, 2016 2:57 PM
Rami Kaibni
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You're very welcome Brenden - It is my pleasure and I am glad you found our advice useful to you.

Looking forward for more contributions from your side - Cheers.
Dec 05, 2016 2:22 PM
Replying to Brenden Murphy
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I find this very true! I know some of my friends on the other hand can't even fathom the idea of "liking there job". I definitely see that PM's are very adamant about their jobs. This is motivational. When I see a community like PMI I know that this is a very serious business. I am a workaholic. Joining PMI seems like I am on the right track. I get to hear great viewpoints from successful individuals such as yourself.
As I tried to pointed out (perhaps because english is not my native language I did not achieve it): you are in control of your actions. And taking what you wrote: you have to define what is a "successful individual" for you. After that you have to plan your actions to achieve that without forget that you have to assume all the reactions from actions you will generate. The world is simple. The only thing you have to do to understand the world is to read and understand the Isaac Newtons Laws of Motion, mainly the third one.
Dec 05, 2016 2:24 PM
Replying to Brenden Murphy
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I love your comparison to the home. I think PM's are very good at dividing their work and play. However, they diversify when and where they use skills from both sides. This makes conversations with individuals like yourself very fun! Credibility and trust seem to be a hot topic for PM's, so thanks for bringing those up. I appreciate the advice!
You're very welcome Brenden - It is my pleasure and I am glad you found our advice useful to you.

Looking forward for more contributions from your side - Cheers.
Brenden, my wife was also a PM. We use the skills all the time. We don't necessarily realize we are using them, but subconsciously we do, and you will. It often helps, because unfortunately, as a customer, we need to 'assist' those doing the work for us.

One thing I want to address though is you mentioning of being a workaholic. Please don't do that. You're young, and sounds like you have a family. Do what's important, work is work. Do what you can in the day, and know when to put it down.
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1 reply by Brenden Murphy
Dec 05, 2016 8:52 PM
Brenden Murphy
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Thanks for the advice Andrew! I do not have any children, but I do have a girlfriend who I am very serious about .There are times where I do feel tension because I am always trying to achieve a heightened workload. It's great to se your comment about not focusing on work. It is also very inspiring to see that you and your wife have PM credentials. All I want to know is....who gets the t.v. remote! ha
Dec 05, 2016 3:14 PM
Replying to Drew Craig
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Brenden, my wife was also a PM. We use the skills all the time. We don't necessarily realize we are using them, but subconsciously we do, and you will. It often helps, because unfortunately, as a customer, we need to 'assist' those doing the work for us.

One thing I want to address though is you mentioning of being a workaholic. Please don't do that. You're young, and sounds like you have a family. Do what's important, work is work. Do what you can in the day, and know when to put it down.
Thanks for the advice Andrew! I do not have any children, but I do have a girlfriend who I am very serious about .There are times where I do feel tension because I am always trying to achieve a heightened workload. It's great to se your comment about not focusing on work. It is also very inspiring to see that you and your wife have PM credentials. All I want to know is....who gets the t.v. remote! ha
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Brenden,

I put the similar question to community some time back. Glad you brought this out again :)

Request not to mix profession/business with personal life. Keep this separate.

Best!!
Very simple, family is always first.
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1 reply by Brenden Murphy
Dec 08, 2016 12:09 PM
Brenden Murphy
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I feel the same way! I just find some situations I will be with my girlfriend and I may start to micro-manage. I am conscious of it, yet I still do it. I am hoping that my awareness is a process of change and I can be a great leader with this kind of thinking. It's just sometimes a worry to myself of how it will all play out.
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