Your self-image plays a major part in how you live your life. It determines the quality of your life and, often, how successful you will be. It also sets the tone, rhythm and meter for all your relationships, both personal and professional.
A strong self-image can be the foundation for achieving a meaningful life and self-fulfillment, according to Vanessa Bell, an Encino, Calif.-based psychotherapist. Simply defined, “your self-image is how you feel about yourself at any particular time,” she says.
It’s formed in many ways. Initially it’s molded by family, friends and your intellectual and physical abilities, and later on in life by job successes and failures. “All these things influence how people feel about themselves, and they also influence the expectations people have about themselves at any particular time,” says Bell.
In the critical childhood years, parents are largely responsible for shaping self-image, according to Bell. “They help shape a child’s mirror, or reflection of himself,” she says. “Parents are a very powerful impacting force on children.”
Your self-image can be likened to a mental blueprint. It’s a picture of what you think you are, not necessarily who you really are. Most of the things you do and feel are consistent with your self-image. Your