Kevin, anger is not just related to PM it is related to all kind of human being since the start of our generation in fact the story of Qabeel and Habeel the two sons of Adam the anger and rage was causing first murder on earth when Qabeel killed Habeel during the state of anger and his face contorted with rage, however I am not putting the whole story here but to say that anger was the cause of first murder though he regret it later on but that can not bring his young brother to life at time so it is very important not to take decision in the state of anger, remembering the strongest individual who can quench his/her anger. Saving Changes...
Dinah YoungProject Manager / Software Asset Manager| Prince William CountySpringfield, Va, United States
In general, I would say it is important to control any "knee-jerk" reactions. Give yourself a moment to think before you react. Take a deep breath, ask for clarification, and if you are not ready to respond, tell the other person that you are not prepared to continue this conversation.
Reactionary project management is not desirable. Saving Changes...
Anish AbrahamPrivacy Program Manager| University of WashingtonAuburn, Wa, United States
Personally when I get angry, I try to make an intention to apply mindfulness to become increasingly responsive, so that I can avoid being driven by my emotions. I know It's not easy always but I will try my best. Saving Changes...
In order to deal with anger effectively in the moment is to understand how you personally react to certain triggers and situations. Knowing what is in your control and what is not in your control. Those are the two main categories.
Learning how to quickly figure that out is the first step. You then need to figure out the method of calming down that works best for you an implement it every time. As there are different levels of emotional reaction, each situation will be "tailored" to how you react to it. There's no one size fits all when it comes to emotional behavior. If you're someone that easily gets ticked off at little things, than you have much work to do and paying attention or being present to that will be your main focus.
I like to take a deep breathe when I feel the anxiety of anger approach and bring myself to a present state listening to how I am sounding when getting angry. Of course in the heat of the moment, that is not always easy but with practice you will catch yourself sooner than before it gets out of hand.
Sometimes walking away for a moment and coming back is the best option. It allows you to collect your thoughts quickly in the privacy of space to regroup. You can also pass certain things off to another if you feel yourself getting nowhere and more angry or frustrated. So learning how to transfer or redirect the situation can be a good tool to use to help mitigate the situation.
If in a position of leadership or management - a simple mental reminder that your role is always in the spotlight can help serve those boundaries. Knowing all eyes are on you will keep you grounded. After all, you don't want to embarrass yourself by looking like a loose cannon of problems which your role is to provide solutions. Makes you look incompetent. As they say, can't handle the heat don't go in the kitchen.
Tempers will happen, but there's way to maintain a level or professional control and express them in a healthier way. Saving Changes...
Drew CraigSr. Agile & Product Coach| VanguardPhiladelphia, Pa, United States
Anger can seep into any aspect of our life, regardless of profession. It is important to realize that 1) Anger exists, it is what you do with it, 2) Keep things in context. We can get so tunnel visioned in our day-to-day that we tend to lose sight on the bigger picture, and 3) Find an activity, like running, to help clear your thoughts. Saving Changes...
