Today I lost my cool not once but twice. First with my immediate supervisor when he told me a more junior person was going to get an opportunity that clearly (in my mind)should have been offered to me and then later with a project sponsor that moved the delivery date for a project up a week without telling me but going to the development team directly and telling them.
I think I was justified in both cases to get uptight and I am not the type of person to lose my cool however both of these things happened within an hour and I guess I just lost it.
Now I am miserable with regret and I imagine I have created a reputation for myself as a cry baby. Is there a way to salvage what I have done? Saving Changes...
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Anonymous
Perservere. You aren't the only one to make tactical errors. Go back, apologize and show a willingness to help. Wait a few days and see how it works out. Saving Changes...
Anonymous
Make recommendations that you will take going forward. Also, keep your eyes open for other opportunities in the market if you feel your reputation cannot be damaged controlled. Take a pro-active view ... this is a PM's market. Saving Changes...
Michael WoodProject Manager / Business Analyst / Business Process Improvement Guru| Independent ContractorGig Harbor, Wa, United States
Just read your two situations. Some days are like that.
Seems each situation has its own issues. The first, feeling wronged and unappreciated the second a clear breach in protocol. For the first, remember that your ego is what got hurt. It is your perception you were more qualified. My advice is this: learn what you could do in the future to be selected for advancements. Go with your hat in hand and ask the person directly. And an appology wouldn't hurt.
The second is a bit more serious. Here, you might consider visiting with the person that went around you and asking for their support in the future by allowing you to break such important changes to your team first. Be frank, but don't be abbrasive.
Remember that your success in an orgainzation is based on how you are thought of and not what you know. Your knowledge and talent are assumed or you would not have the job. So build those relationships and let your talent speak for itself.
I have done what you have done and never recovered my credibility....in your case, it wasn't what you did that hurt you - it looks like you were intentionally overlooked anyway. I know this sounds harsh but the reality is what it is ---- start looking. Saving Changes...
Anonymous
You experienced what many people have. That is why I believe it is always important to validate/show appreciation for all members of the project team. When you appreciate others, they remember you when they see opportunites coming. Saving Changes...
