To recognise, it takes sometime as I would've trusted the co-worker for a long time. Respect and credibility that we would've earned in our professional environment, will always help us to move ahead. With our talents, efforts & self-confidence we have to keep going, without compromising on our self-respect. Saving Changes...
The best way to manage it is not to be thrown under the bus to begin with, so practicing some personal risk management goes a long way to reducing your need to respond.
If those risk responses are not effective, then you need to assess the short-term benefits of trying to set the record straight or seeking revenge vs. playing the long game.
If you have developed good relationships with stakeholders and have acted with integrity, in most cases, you will can dust yourself off and move on having gained the wisdom to not trust the individual who threw you under the bus in the future!
Kiron Saving Changes...
Dinah YoungProject Manager / Software Asset Manager| Prince William CountySpringfield, Va, United States
For awhile I was being thrown under the bus so often (by upper management) that I set up residence there. I did not respond at the time because it would have served no purpose to do so. And all of the stakeholders I worked with had high enough regard that they did not believe what was being said about me. After management changed, I set about to refute some of the things that were still hanging out there about me. It was mostly with some of my team members. People realized that if these managers were throwing me under the bus, I was not alone. These same managers would talk about them behind there backs as well.
Sometimes you can fight back, but other times it is best to just put your head down and keep working. Saving Changes...
Anita DhirPresident/CEO| Medhira EnterprisesLong Island City, Ny, United States
I agree with Kiron. It is the best way to learn. Many times, the signs were all there but we did not acknowledge them. Now with lessons learned, we learn not to ignore emerging signs and thus get better at risk management. Saving Changes...
I agree with Kiron, 'thrown under the bus' could be a presumption, however, after careful consideration if I realize that it has happened - As a response, I would consider it as a lesson learnt and try to be mindful next time. Saving Changes...
Tamer Zeyad SadiqAssistant Cost Manager| Turner & TownsendRiyadh, Ar Riyad, Saudi Arabia
Agreed Kiron Saving Changes...
Joshua RenderProduct Owner| CognizantHarrisville, Ny, United States
Depends I guess.... is it my fault or are they just trying to blame me.
If they are just trying to blame me, hopefully I kept good records and have earned people's trust enough to know that I am probably innocent.
If it was my fault, then I guess I deserve it. I have heard people complain about being thrown under the bus for bad work or failed projects before and it was kind of their fault. I guess I would just suck it up and deal with it. Saving Changes...
Anish AbrahamPrivacy Program Manager| University of WashingtonAuburn, Wa, United States
In my opinion, thrown under the bus is like being sacked by the team member who was supposed to be protecting me. It's a betrayal, but once it's acknowledged, I would try a new game plan to move forward. Anyway It will take time. Saving Changes...
Understanding human motivation goes a long way to recognize potential risks and triggers for being thrown under the bus. When it does happen, finding out why would be a good start, and that usually involves confronting the person or persons who threw you under the bus. That is not always possible though. So in the end its either change the areas that caused Brutas' dagger, or not if you feel that nothing should be changed (ie. someone just doesn't like you). Either way, detach and move on, which is easier said than done. Saving Changes...
RAJESH K LProject Manager, PMP| Bharat Electronics, Bengaluru, IndiaBengaluru, Karnataka, India
