Dinah YoungProject Manager / Software Asset Manager| Prince William CountySpringfield, Va, United States
Over the years we have all found ourselves in less than ideal situations. You think when you leave that job or boss, it is over, but it is not.
I had one project that had such a crazy schedule I would have nothing to do for 6 weeks and then I would finally receive the requirements and have less than 48 hours until it was expected test would begin. I was starting to have anxiety attacks. It took me quite a bit of time to "get my groove back"
I had another boss that was constantly talking about me behind my back, always critical of my emails, was never as good as this other person, told me I should not talk to our customers alone, crazy stuff. I am still working through the trust issues this behavior spawned in me. Saving Changes...
It depends on how bad the impact was - the last time I faced this challenge it took me close to a month to regain confidence and my normal feeling of self-worth. It's also affected by how long you were in the corrosive situation.
Kiron Saving Changes...
Drake SettsuProject Manager / BloggerHi, United States
I reflect and move on after unfavorable experiences I just become a better PM from the experience. I call it battle wounds that heal and leave a scar to remind me that if that same bad experience occurs again I will be better prepared to meet it head on this time. Saving Changes...
Dinah YoungProject Manager / Software Asset Manager| Prince William CountySpringfield, Va, United States
You think you are pretty self confident and can handle anything. But then you are in a situation for several months or years that chips away at your confidence. When you realize what is happening and leave the situation you think you are doing ok, but then you notice that some of the ways you react are still skewed to the previous job. You need to take the time to "retrain" yourself and build that confidence back up. Saving Changes...
Senior Projects Manager | Field & Marten AssociatesNew Westminster, British Columbia, Canada
Sometimes days, other times its is irrecoverable and will get to you and stay with you. I experienced both during my career life so far. Saving Changes...
Eric SimmsSenior Program ManagerBaltimore, Maryland, United States
Trust must be earned. If you are still reacting negatively to things in your new environment, are you doing so because they echo the situation you left to some degree?
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1 reply by Dinah Young
Aug 14, 2018 11:14 AM
Dinah Young
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I think part of the problem I am having is that I changed groups/manager, not the company. So my old manager is still around me. I still need to work with her sometimes even though I no longer work for her. And it was many years of a rollercoaster ride with her. My new manager keeps saying that was all in the past.
I am working hard and focusing on all of the new great things I am doing . Every now and then something sneaks up on me.
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Dinah YoungProject Manager / Software Asset Manager| Prince William CountySpringfield, Va, United States
Aug 14, 2018 11:07 AM
Replying to Eric Simms
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Trust must be earned. If you are still reacting negatively to things in your new environment, are you doing so because they echo the situation you left to some degree?
I think part of the problem I am having is that I changed groups/manager, not the company. So my old manager is still around me. I still need to work with her sometimes even though I no longer work for her. And it was many years of a rollercoaster ride with her. My new manager keeps saying that was all in the past.
I am working hard and focusing on all of the new great things I am doing . Every now and then something sneaks up on me.
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1 reply by Oliver Masciarotte
Aug 15, 2018 8:50 AM
Oliver Masciarotte
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Yes, focus on the current regime but do consider finding a new company. It’s time for a move when your current company continues to support employees with such unprofessional and unproductive behavior. Your skills are valuable, start your search!
Yes,Dinah.
I face such case in one of my project.
They say a PM should take a control before being a victim of late requirements.
But this used to be happened in real live and project goes to be as Pile status.
BR,
Mansour Saving Changes...
Drew CraigSr. Agile & Product Coach| VanguardPhiladelphia, Pa, United States
Definitely can depend, and if the situation results in a job change, then it actually could become a motivator and provide a self-confidence boost. Sometimes simply accepting a deteriorating situation can add to one's decreasing confidence level. Saving Changes...
Ehinonmen OniPortfolio Manager| System Operations, Transmission Company of Nig. PlcFct Abuja, Fct, Nigeria
What a pity Dinah,
Maybe you were not involved in the project planning process. It is idea for the project manager to be appointed at the project initiating stage.
I think it is better to quit than to have heart attacks over crazy schedules and and poorly defined project scope. Saving Changes...
Anton OosthuizenSenior Business Analyst / Project Manager| Self EmployedPretoria, Gauteng, South Africa
The 'boss' you described is just that - a boss. Not a manager, not a leader, not a mentor but just somebody in an authoritative position that has no place being there. The first concern is how did they get there. If this is the sort of style that is promoted by the company then you will never recover, you need to get out, NOW.
If it is a bad job then you need to convince yourself that it is over and the next one will be better, you will do better.
Confidence in yourself and your abilities is key. Not arrogance but knowing and understanding your strengths and weaknesses will help you to determine whether the 'bad' is because of you. If you believe in what you are capable of then putting a bad job or boss behind you won't take long.
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