Nov 23, 2019 12:19 PM
Replying to Keith Novak
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Tony,
One thing that I will add to the great advice above is that if you think they are deliberately lying to you, make sure you document your communications with them. Save their emails, and after you have discussions, write down what they said in as much detail as you can. If you must elevate the issue, that will be much better supporting evidence of your claims than your memory.
I had a recent experience where I am confident someone was deliberately lying to me. Once they realized that I was taking careful notes, their behavior changed quickly. They could not later claim, "I never said that." because they knew the response could be, "You said it on this date in this meeting and also in this email that I saved."
That is also not calling them a liar. Stating facts does not say whether the other person intentionally lied, misspoke, or their memory is wrong. Any argument is then limited to the facts of what they said, and avoids your personal perception of what their intent was when saying it.