Who practices the 7 Habits is Emotionally Intelligent?

I agree wholeheartedly with Daire that "if we can understand the person we can understand the problem". IMO the major cause of problems, especially in project type work is people themselves. Emotional intelligence without any practice will get us only so far, but making it habitual may get us further with what we are doing e.g. thru' self-regulation, .

I agree with all this, in both cases when you are involved with the site team and top management.

weaknesses maybe anger, disappointment, distrust and cannot be expressed if we are emotionally intelligent

Very true. We don't need to look for external motivation. all that has to come from inside

Dear Thomas
Thank you for your comment

I didn't read this article you wrote on Linkedln
Can you share the link?

After your comment, I can conclude that we have one to jointly reflect on the Emotional Intelligence theme

Daniel Goldman, the person who popularized Emotional Intelligence, calls it "Social Skills" which, in my opinion, is more comprehensive than "influence in the context of leadership"

Dear Peter
Thank you for participating in this reflection and for your opinion

Did you have the opportunity to read what I wrote about emotional intelligence, the five elements of emotional intelligence and the specific characterization of each of these elements?

I would really like to know if you agree with what I wrote about emotional intelligence

Hi Luis
here is the link
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/leadership-...-thomas-walenta

Social Skills have many impacts, they make us live longer and happier, enable us to actively take part in conversations or win in negotiations or sales.
My argument is that for project managers, the most important aspect of social skills is influence.

Luis: My thoughts as requested. Not fully developed but may give rise to some discussion.
There are five important elements to emotional intelligence as presented by you in an earlier post.

1. Self-awareness
2. Self-regulation (I would use "self-control" rather than self-regulation)
3. Motivation (not as neat as 1 and 2. Motivation may result from EQ but is it an element of EQ? One can argue that motivation is a state of mind or emotion but one can be motivated without self awareness.)
4. Empathy: (the capacity to understand or feel what another person is experiencing from within their frame of reference (awareness and understanding of others) is a sign of a higher degree of EQ. The ability to use empathy to ones advantage is also critical and may be considered manipulative)
5. Social skills (I suppose this is where one uses EQ to ones advantage without being seen as manipulative. I am not convinced that it is an element of EQ but rather the application of EQ.)

Hi Luis - it has been a long time since I've read both of these books, though I'm going to add them back to my list after your refresher.

My thought at this moment (which I reserve the right to change later) are that the 7 habits are vastly different from Emotional Intelligence.

The Seven Habits have to be formed - like any other habit. You have to do them over and over again until they become innate.

However, my Emotional Intelligence is already part of who I am organically. If empathy and motivation are already part of my EI, those habits will come naturally to me. If they are not, then I will need to consciously practice those habits so I can improve my EI.

Great question!