Amjad AliSenior Business Analyst - Information Security| IFCDelta, British Columbia, Canada
I came across a very interesting article on a business insider post. The title was "5 clear signs you 're not an authentic leader". You may be able to search the title on internet and get to the original article.
It was an interesting read. She gives 5 signs…or should I say, clear signs
1. You spend too much time talking about how busy you are - Stop wearing your busyness badge.
2. You send fancy communications or 'on behalf of' emails - People don’t read them. People don’t want fancy marketing words; they just want to hear from you like a human.
3. You're a different person in the boardroom than the breakroom - be that leader … everywhere. Not just in meeting rooms.
4. You do more talking than listening - your job isn't to know all the answers. Your job is to ask the right questions.
5. You preach work-life balance but then don't have it yourself - Stop talking about work-life balance. Demonstrate it. People don't follow your words — they follow your actions.
According to the article, those are clear signs of un-authentic leaders. Do you agree that above are indeed clear signs of “not an authentic leader”? What would you add or explain differently. Saving Changes...
Muhammad AliProject Manager| Al-Toukhi for Contracting, Trading & IndustryHail, Saudi Arabia, Saudi Arabia
Point No. 4 is very easy and essential....
"4. You do more talking than listening"
Listening is the main leadership skill. Leadership skill is multiplied by listening to all people / parties. Saving Changes...
Jeremy DacuycuySenior Project Manager| UC Davis HealthSacramento, Ca, United States
Great list to help leaders identify if they are fake. I would add:
* Take credit for the success of other people’s hard work.
* Use profile advantages vs. action to promote yourself. Saving Changes...
Peter RapinSubject Matter Expect; Project Delivery| Independent ConsultantOntario, Canada
A leader has to have a clear objective(s) both personally and for the team and promote the need for clear objects. If you don't have a destination chances of getting somewhere is good but it most likely is not where you wanted, or needed, to go. Saving Changes...
Amjad AliSenior Business Analyst - Information Security| IFCDelta, British Columbia, Canada
Feb 16, 2020 4:00 AM
Replying to Alexandre Costa
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Amjad,
This are in fact signs, some more important than others , but there are other important situations that send you clear signs that the person is not acting as a leader could let some as example:
1 - You don't care about how others are feeling. 2 - You don't treat everyone equally despite how you feel. 3 - The team are responsible for all that goes wrong. 4 - You are not approachable.
and there are a lot more signs that I could enumerate.
Alexandre
Alexandre – thank you for the additional items. I agree that all of these are indeed clear signs. Clear signs would be something that is visible outside for anyone to notice.
Those definitely should show some more than others. Very good contributions. The item #4 seems to manifest itself in different forms, would you say. Saving Changes...
Amjad AliSenior Business Analyst - Information Security| IFCDelta, British Columbia, Canada
Feb 16, 2020 6:25 AM
Replying to Sergio Luis Conte
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The important thing is not what you think, is what the people around you think.
So true Sergio, and when I look at Kiron's item #1, if surrounded by Yes men/women, this would get really murky and signals would not be clear.
But totally agree that a leader is defined by how others perceive one rather than ones own self belief. Saving Changes...
Amjad AliSenior Business Analyst - Information Security| IFCDelta, British Columbia, Canada
Feb 16, 2020 7:23 AM
Replying to Thomas Walenta
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Good point, Sergio.
If your self image matches largely to what others observe, you have less blind spots for yourself and others see your behaviors as close to your „real“ person.
The Johari window model says we can extend our authenticity by asking for feedback and disclosing our thoughts and exposing ourselves (e.g. by admitting mistakes).
Thank you Thomas,
I agree with the Johari window. However, I have also seen this fail at times when people giving the feedback have something to gain by telling one things that will get them past the current situation.
I joke about situations where a wife would ask a husband, "Do I look fat in this outfit?" Do you think the husband would give the correct answer? What is the correct answer....perhaps one that will maybe keep him off the couch:)
Johari window is excellent when everyone is candid....I think it is excellent for self discovery. But with a grain of salt.
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1 reply by Thomas Walenta
Feb 22, 2020 1:22 AM
Thomas Walenta
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Amjad yes, depending on who you ask you get useful feedback. The wife should not ask the husband, as he would be one of Kiron‘s yes-men in this situation. Building a personal feedback system is a skill in itself.
Asking for feedback includes selecting a helpful, honest feedback giver. That’s why executive coaches, mentors, consultants are en vogue. And kings employed clowns.
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Amjad AliSenior Business Analyst - Information Security| IFCDelta, British Columbia, Canada
Feb 16, 2020 9:37 AM
Replying to Kiron Bondale
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Amjad -
I would add:
1. You surround yourself with "Yes men/women"
2. You don't demonstrate good judgment
Kiron
Thank you Kiron, point 1 is so common. I don't know which is worse, the poor leader or the yes men and women. But this is definitely hurting the organizations where such culture exists.
I agree sometimes people are just assuming leadership positions where decisions are made without regard for the best route...okay we got a decision so lets do it...
Those are great insights. Thank you. Saving Changes...
Amjad AliSenior Business Analyst - Information Security| IFCDelta, British Columbia, Canada
Thank you everyone for your great insights. Like the article I described, sometimes to see a what an authentic leader is, it may just be easier to see what an authentic leader is not.
Enjoyed reading all your comments.
Thank you Saving Changes...
Thomas WalentaGlobal Project Economy ExpertHackenheim, Germany
Feb 22, 2020 12:56 AM
Replying to Amjad Ali
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Thank you Thomas,
I agree with the Johari window. However, I have also seen this fail at times when people giving the feedback have something to gain by telling one things that will get them past the current situation.
I joke about situations where a wife would ask a husband, "Do I look fat in this outfit?" Do you think the husband would give the correct answer? What is the correct answer....perhaps one that will maybe keep him off the couch:)
Johari window is excellent when everyone is candid....I think it is excellent for self discovery. But with a grain of salt.
Amjad yes, depending on who you ask you get useful feedback. The wife should not ask the husband, as he would be one of Kiron‘s yes-men in this situation. Building a personal feedback system is a skill in itself.
Asking for feedback includes selecting a helpful, honest feedback giver. That’s why executive coaches, mentors, consultants are en vogue. And kings employed clowns. Saving Changes...
Product Operations Program ManagerBarcelona, Cataluña, Spain
A good trait in a leader is humbleness. And someone that walks the walk and not just talks the talk. Unfortunately there are more and more so called managers that fill in a certain box in an organizational map and add little value in achieving companies mission. More leaders and less managers should steer companies in the right direction. Saving Changes...