Recently, one of my mentees told me that effective mentoring is rare today.
I believe that sharing knowledge and experience through mentoring can genuinely change someone’s career path - and become a fast track to professional growth.
If you’ve ever had a mentor or participated in a mentoring program, you probably know how important it is to find the right mentor. Let me know in the comments what made your mentoring experience truly effective? What qualities, competencies, or approach did your mentor have?
And if you haven’t participated in a mentoring program yet - what would be most important to you when choosing a mentor?
For me, effective mentorship starts with clarity about why the mentor–mentee relationship exists. Is it for career direction, technical growth, leadership development, or simply learning from someone who has already walked a similar path? Once the purpose is clear, expectations, ground rules, and ownership are easier to establish.
I was fortunate to learn from a mentor who is a business owner and cybersecurity expert. What I valued most was hearing his perspective on the future of project management, potential roadblocks, and pitfalls that may not be obvious early in the journey.
To me, a great mentor does not just give answers. They help the mentee discover their own direction while sharing enough experience to make the road ahead clearer. The mentee still owns the journey.
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1 reply by Anna Herer
May 25, 2026 1:25 PM
Anna Herer
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Thank you for sharing your perspective, Aung. Much appreciated. I especially like your point about clarity of purpose and the mentee owning the journey.
For me, effective mentorship starts with clarity about why the mentor–mentee relationship exists. Is it for career direction, technical growth, leadership development, or simply learning from someone who has already walked a similar path? Once the purpose is clear, expectations, ground rules, and ownership are easier to establish.
I was fortunate to learn from a mentor who is a business owner and cybersecurity expert. What I valued most was hearing his perspective on the future of project management, potential roadblocks, and pitfalls that may not be obvious early in the journey.
To me, a great mentor does not just give answers. They help the mentee discover their own direction while sharing enough experience to make the road ahead clearer. The mentee still owns the journey.
Thank you for sharing your perspective, Aung. Much appreciated. I especially like your point about clarity of purpose and the mentee owning the journey. Saving Changes...
I’ve come to think that one of the hardest parts of mentoring is resisting the urge to create someone in your own image.
Early in a mentoring relationship, it’s easy for the mentee to interpret experience as “the right answer” rather than “one informed perspective.”
The best mentors I’ve had didn’t try to create alignment with themselves.
They helped me:
• think more clearly under ambiguity • recognize tradeoffs instead of searching for certainty • communicate difficult ideas more effectively • develop confidence in my own judgment • and separate principles from personalities
I also think great mentors know when to step back.
At some point, growth requires space for independent decision-making — including mistakes, imperfect calls, and learning through consequence.
Mentoring becomes especially powerful when the relationship evolves from:
“What would you do?”
to:
“Here’s how I’m thinking about it.”
That shift usually says more about mentoring success than any formal metric ever could.
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1 reply by Anna Herer
May 26, 2026 3:03 PM
Anna Herer
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Imran, I fully resonate with your perspective. Giving mentees space is crucial, but it also requires the courage to accept imperfection and allow them to gain real-life experience through their own decisions. It’s a difficult, but incredibly fruitful, way to learn, grow, and progress faster.
I’ve come to think that one of the hardest parts of mentoring is resisting the urge to create someone in your own image.
Early in a mentoring relationship, it’s easy for the mentee to interpret experience as “the right answer” rather than “one informed perspective.”
The best mentors I’ve had didn’t try to create alignment with themselves.
They helped me:
• think more clearly under ambiguity • recognize tradeoffs instead of searching for certainty • communicate difficult ideas more effectively • develop confidence in my own judgment • and separate principles from personalities
I also think great mentors know when to step back.
At some point, growth requires space for independent decision-making — including mistakes, imperfect calls, and learning through consequence.
Mentoring becomes especially powerful when the relationship evolves from:
“What would you do?”
to:
“Here’s how I’m thinking about it.”
That shift usually says more about mentoring success than any formal metric ever could.
Imran, I fully resonate with your perspective. Giving mentees space is crucial, but it also requires the courage to accept imperfection and allow them to gain real-life experience through their own decisions. It’s a difficult, but incredibly fruitful, way to learn, grow, and progress faster. Saving Changes...
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