A Dozen Ways to Shut Up and Listen

Joe Wynne is a versatile Project Manager experienced in delivering medium-scope projects in large organizations that improve workforce performance and business processes. He has a proven track record of delivering effective, technology-savvy solutions in a variety of industries and a unique combination of strengths in both process management and workforce management.

 

It's Important! Really!

Never, ever underestimate the power of listening. If you doubt this, compare your salary and how hard you work with a local psychologist. Really, though...honing your listening skills can pay off with huge dividends.

There are direct benefits as you handle the existing situation brilliantly and send a worker off to confidently complete a task. There are even more powerful indirect benefits. For example, if you regularly handle "listening opportunities" appropriately, workers will be more likely to "self-manage" themselves, leaving you with time for lunch at least twice a week.

People see listening skills as a sign of a good leader. Bad listening skills are a sign of someone who will not go far and may not be desired to be where they are currently. The three word rule of thumb is "Shut Up and Listen."

A Dozen Listening Do's and Don'ts to Use Now

1. Don't assume you have to do anything but listen. If you appear to the speaker like you are waiting for someone else to pound you with a marble-filled sock, then you put up a subtle wall against communication. Remember that before you complain again that no one tells you anything.
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2. Do respond to show you care about the worker and the situation. There are people who have this calming influence over others, and all they do is listen. Pay close attention, and maintain eye contact.
3. Do acknowledge the other's feelings in the matter (frustration and annoyance are typical, but there may be excitement or anxiety). This makes a strong connection.
4. Do determine why they are speaking to you. Listen actively for the reason.
5. Don't be aggressive in forcing people to come to their point. This will likely offend and will reduce communication your way in the future. (This may sound good on the surface, but it's really not.)
6. Do use gentle persuasion to get to the point so you don't end up strangling the poor speaker. You hear a lot of frustration over "slow people" in this ever-faster workplace, but gentle persuasion can get anyone to the point. Example: "I believe I'm familiar with this background information, how can I help you?"
7. Don't write anything down until you are sure it is approved by the speaker. If people are bringing you sensitive information, ask them if it is alright to make notes. You may have to write down information after they are gone.
8. Don't let your current emotional state force you to miss a powerful listening opportunity. Put aside your frustrations momentarily so that you can focus on the speaker.
9. Don't "walk and talk" unless it is a very routine matter. Stand or sit with the speaker for optimum impact.
10. Do end a conversation by providing positive feedback even if the message was negative. For example, "Cathy, I'm glad you took the time to explain your concerns over the implementation strategy. Your opinion is valuable to me."
11. Don't automatically try to fix the problem stated by someone. If you find yourself responding by saying, "Have you tried..." or "You need to..." or something similar, then you need to reassess your listening skills immediately. This mistake is typically made by men, but everyone is guilty sometime. This is de-motivating and confusing when not desired by the speaker.
12. Do react appropriately to the reason they have come to you. See the box below for appropriate responses to three common situations.

Don't miss out on a chance to motivate and impress workers by simply sitting and listening. How hard can it be?