Lets be grateful
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by Kiron Bondale
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I'm in the middle of Adrian Gostick and Chester Elton's book Leading with Gratitude. I really enjoyed one of their previous books, The Carrot Principle, which provided great case studies on the importance of recognition in the work place as well as multiple suggestions on ways to recognize colleagues without spending a cent. Leading with Gratitude is a very readable sequel to the previous one, and focuses on the importance of gratitude in improving individual, team and company performance.
I've written previously about the importance of creating a culture of appreciation within teams and provided one way to do this regularly via retrospectives, but this book provides some additional insights and ideas.
The authors mention the research conducted by Teresa Amabile and Steven Kramer which indicated that a significant boost to our emotions and motivation comes from making progress in work which is meaningful. The research also shows that the more often we feel that we are making progress, the more creative and productive we are likely to be.
As project managers, we tend to be goal oriented, and recognizing our team's efforts in achieving a major milestone is important. But it is equally important that we express sincere, regular gratitude for the small wins which our team members are achieving.
If you happen to work in person with your team members, it is easier to identify incremental progress and recognize it in real time. But this can also be done virtually if you are watching your team's progress via work boards or following their discussions in collaborative chat tools.
Keeping a gratitude journal (or OneNote Notebook if you prefer) is also a good way to remind yourself about what's going well and what might be acknowledged.
While it is important that leaders express gratitude, if by doing so team members start to do the same to each other, that creates a compounding effect.
One way to do this is during daily coordination events (e.g. Scrums, standups or huddles). While the focus of the events is to help the team coordinate their efforts towards the day's goals, it can also be a good opportunity for an individual on the team to do a shout out for one of their colleagues.
Gratitude can also be baked into the working agreements of the team and how team members will act on it might vary. One example of doing this which comes from sales teams is to have a bell, squeaky toy or other type of noise maker which is triggered whenever someone has done something to be grateful for.
And if you are worried about diluting the value of gratitude by expressing it more frequently or thinking that team members will get tired or numb of it, don't worry. Based on the extensive research done by the authors, they have not run into one instance where someone complained about being praised too much.
A new year has just got underway and if there is one resolution which is worth making and sticking to, it is to be more grateful.
Posted on: January 16, 2023 09:00 AM |
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Luis Branco
CEO| Business Insight, Consultores de Gestão, Ldª
Carcavelos, Lisboa, Portugal
Dear Kiron
Very interesting the theme that brought to our reflection and for debate
Thank you for sharing, for the proposed books and for your tips
I've heard the following thesis defended: "even if team members don't reach the goals, be grateful. This can encourage them to do better next time"
Thanks Luis! As the authors write, gratefulness is the one resource which we have an infinite supply of so no reason to be stingy with how we give it!
Hello Kyron,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and recommendations on how to express gratitude to our teammates. I will definitely add Leading with Gratitude and The Carrot Principle to my 2023 TBR list.
Thanks Pedro - you will find both books to be easy but insightful reads with lots of great ideas!
Luis Branco
CEO| Business Insight, Consultores de Gestão, Ldª
Carcavelos, Lisboa, Portugal
Dear Kiron
What image do other people have (especially the people we work with) about a person who spends his life giving thanks?
Are there studies on this topic?
Luis -
The authors do address that in their book and indicate there are no bad perceptions of someone who is frequently grateful so long as the sentiments are believed to be authentic.
Kiron
Luis Branco
CEO| Business Insight, Consultores de Gestão, Ldª
Carcavelos, Lisboa, Portugal
Dear Kiron:
The authors also address the situation:
- Result or impact on the behavior of a member of a project team when the PM is grateful even if the work to be done is not finished and/or the results are not as expected?
Luis -
The authors don't cover this situation specifically, but similar to the concept of psychological safety, being grateful doesn't prevent us from providing constructive feedback if that is warranted.
Kiron
Stéphane Parent
Self Employed / Semi-retired| Leader Maker
Prince Edward Island, Canada
Thank you, Kiron. Gratitude is an inexpensive, yet powerful, way to influence people. It's important to be grateful for the small things, not just the big ones.
Luis: You may appreciate David Rock's "Quiet Leadership" book. He focuses on people's potential, rather than their shortcomings.
Latha Thamma reddi
Sr Product and Portfolio Management (Automation Innovation)| DXC Technology
Mckinney, Tx, United States
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