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Who practices the 7 Habits is Emotionally Intelligent? (Part 2 - 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

Who practices the 7 Habits is Emotionally Intelligent? (Part 1 - Emotional Intelligence)

What can't be measured...: Objectives and Action Plan



 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (image source)                                                   Emotional Intelligence (image source)

After addressing Emotional Intelligence, we can reflect on the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

From dependence to independence


Independence
The first three habits surround moving from dependence to independence (i.e., self-mastery):

1 - Be proactive
Take responsibility for your reaction to your experiences, take the initiative to respond positively and improve the situation.
Recognize your Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern.
Focus your responses and initiates on the center of your influence and constantly work to expand it.
Don't sit and wait in a reactive mode, waiting for problems to happen (Circle of Concern) before taking action.


2 - Begin with the end in mind
Envision what you want in the future so you can work and plan towards it.
Understand how people make decisions in their life.
To be effective you need to act based on principles and constantly review your mission statement.
Are you - right now - who you want to be?
What do I have to say about myself?
How do you want to be remembered?
If habit 1 advises changing your life to act and be proactive, habit 2 advises that you are the programmer!
Grow and stay humble.
All things are created twice.
Before we act, we should act in our minds first.
Before we create something, we measure twice.
This is what the principle is about.
Do not just act; think first: Is this how I want it to go, and are these the correct consequences?


3 - First things first
Matrix of importance vs urgency that Stephen Covey and Dwight D. Eisenhower used in deciding where to invest their efforts.
Talks about  personal vision and personal leadership.
Talks about what is important and what is urgent.
Priority should be given in the following order (in brackets are the corresponding actions from the Eisenhower Matrix):
Quadrant I. Urgent and important (Do) – important deadlines and crises
Quadrant II. Not urgent but important (Plan) – long-term development
Quadrant III. Urgent but not important (Delegate) – distractions with deadlines
Quadrant IV. Not urgent and not important (Eliminate) – frivolous distractions

The order is important; after completing items in quadrant I, we should spend the majority of our time on II, but many people spend too much time in III and IV.
If habit 2 advises that you are the programmer, habit 3 advises: write the program! Keep personal integrity: what you say vs what you do.

From independence to interdependence


Interdependence
The next three habits talk about Interdependence (e.g., working with others):

4 - Think win-win
Genuine feelings for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships.
Value and respect people by understanding a "win" for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution than if only one person in the situation had gotten their way.
Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique.
It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration.


5 - Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Use empathetic listening to genuinely understand a person, which compels them to reciprocate the listening and take an open mind to be influenced by you.
This creates an atmosphere of caring, and positive problem-solving.

Habit 5 is greatly embraced in the Greek philosophy represented by 3 words:
1) Ethos - your personal credibility. It's the trust that you inspire, your Emotional Bank Account.
2) Pathos is the empathetic side - it's the alignment with the emotional trust of another person's communication.
3) Logos is the logic - the reasoning part of the presentation.

The order is important: ethos, pathos, logos - your character, and your relationships, and then the logic of your presentation.


6 - Synergize
Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals that no one could have done alone.

7 - Sharpen the Saw; Growth
See also: Kaizen (continuous improvement)
Balance and renew your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term, effective lifestyle.

It primarily emphasizes exercise for physical renewal, good prayer (meditation, yoga, etc.) and good reading for mental renewal.
It also mentions service to society for spiritual renewal.

Covey explains the "Upward Spiral" model in the sharpening the saw section.
Through our conscience, along with meaningful and consistent progress, the spiral will result in growth, change, and constant improvement.
In essence, one is always attempting to integrate and master the principles outlined in The 7 Habits at progressively higher levels at each iteration.
Subsequent development on any habit will yield a different experience and you will learn the principles with a deeper understanding.
The Upward Spiral model consists of three parts: learn, commit, do.

One must be increasingly educating the conscience in order to grow and develop on the upward spiral.

The idea of renewal by education will propel one along the path of personal freedom, security, wisdom, and power.

 

                                                                      Fonte: Os 7 Hábitos das Pessoas Altamente Eficazes  

                                                                                                                                  Stephen Covey

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Dear Luis,

I would approach this by asking who are the people or profession that should be using the seven traits of EI. You have documented what it takes to reach the next level of performance for a project manager but "easier said than done". What steps can a project manager take to introduce these concepts in their day to day dealings with people. To some people these concepts may be obvious but one caveat is that these concepts only work in environments that support their use, that being the office environment. Can these concepts extend to other work environments or would people being see as a bit soft?

Daire

Dear Daire
Thank you for participating in this reflection in 3 articles
In this second article the approach is about the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

In my life, there is a curious story with the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

All people, in whatever context, can practice, on a daily basis, the 7 Habits

It is only possible to practice the habits of interdependence if we are independent in the 4 dimensions of our being (paradigm of the human being as a whole: Physical, Emotional, Intellectual and Spiritual

I usually offer the people I work with (right at the beginning) the book and I ask them, as they read, to teach me the 7 habits

Great Topic, impressive one. thank you for sharing.

Dear Ahmad
Thank you for your encouraging comment

Did you have the opportunity to read the article on Emotional Intelligence?

In the next article I will address the relationship between Emotional Intelligence and the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and try to answer the question

Dear Luis,

As usual we present us with a high quality post, about a topic I already knew because as you know, you thought me before :).

I am not sure if I am capable of practice the 7 habits , but I am sure that is a good life approach.

Alexandre

Dear Luís Branco
many thanks for writing and sharing the article.
7 habits of highly effective people do help me becoming more emotional intelligent, in essence better prepared for the constraints of life.
cheers

Dear Alexandre
Thank you for participating in this reflection and for your opinion

It is simple to know the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

I know that it is demanding to practice the 7 Habits

Simple and Easy are two different things :-)

Dear Luis,

Probably I should use my left part of the brain or is the right , oh my God I become so confused :) , thank God, Antonio Damásio did not read that article. Forgetting the previous joke, is clear that is hard to practice, we need the will, the resilience, and the persistence to be constantly aware of this principles until the time they become part of us and emerge naturally.

Alexandre

Dear Alexandre
It made me smile with your joke :-)
Thanks

I can only agree with what he wrote later: "is hard to practice, we need the will, the resilience, and the persistence to be constantly aware of these principles until the time they become part of us and emerge naturally"

Nevertheless, it is essential to practice habit 7: Sharpen the Saw; Growth

Dear Tiago
Thank you for participating in this reflection and for your opinion

Did you have the opportunity to read the article on Emotional Intelligence?

In the next article I will address the relationship between Emotional Intelligence and the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and try to answer the question

Dear Luís Branco:

Uncontrolled emotions cloud our reasoning and are understood as a weakness.

The beauty of the Emotional Intelligence lies on the ability to identify, understand and use our own emotions in the most effective way to relieve stress and anxiety, communicate clearly, empathize with others, overcome challenges within a team and neutralise conflicts.

That´s why EQ matters just as much as the better-known Intelligence Quotient (IQ).

Looking forward reading the Part 3 of your reflection “Who practices the 7 Habits is Emotionally Intelligent?” based on Steven Covey´s Best Seller “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.”

Thank you so much for sharing.

Paulo Roque

Dear Paulo
Thank you for participating in this reflection and for your opinion

Did you already know the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People?

What is your opinion about your possible practice?

In the next blog I will address this issue that led me to create these 3 articles

Bom dia LB,
Grande reflexão, sou de opinião que a inteligência emocional é um dos pilares importantes nas nossas vidas e que uma vez entendido e dominado... estaremos prontos para o próximo nível de actuação... de entendermos primeiro o nosso eu e depois procurar compreender os outros!

Caro Bob
Obrigado por participar nesta reflexão e pela sua opinião

Já conhecia os 7 Hábitos das Pessoas Altamente Eficazes?

Considera que as pessoas que os praticam são Emocionalmente Inteligentes?

No meu próximo artigo vou escrever sobre o tema

I'm motivated by self-regulation but my empathy towards self-awarness leaves my social skills at a defecit :-)

Very interesting, I read Stephen Covey book a few years ago and it impacted very positively in my life.
Obrigado.

Dear Sante
Thank you for participating in this reflection and for your opinion

Nothing like continuing to try :-)

Dear Luiz
Thank you for participating in this reflection and for your opinion

Do you still practice the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People?

Dear Luis
totally agree with you, nice
Thanks
Hamid

Hi Luis,

Thanks for your message to my Inbox.

I think "Be proactive" is also an important factor in leadership.
Leaders who do not act with fear, leaders who do not act only by giving instructions to others.
People are not attracted to such leaders.
I think people follow because they are leaders who always take the lead.

And the concept of "win-win" is very important.
There is a saying in Japan.

"Brightening the feet of those walking ahead in the dark is the same as brightening their own way."

Just thinking about your own interests means that you end up in a crisis.

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