Are you treating yourself ethically?

 

PMI has an excellent code of Ethics and Professional conduct, with four core values. If you don't remember them, don't feel guilty. In my sessions I asked the participants if they remember them. I found less than 10% remember them all, half of them remember two, and all just remember one. The good thing is if you ask them to guess, they often come with more than 10 values with one or two of them are in the core values. Anyway they are “Respect, Honesty, Responsibly and Fairness”.

 When I ask them how they can implement them, they said a lot of things makes me feel they are angels working in the heaven (which is also nice). Maybe they are, I don’t judge.

 The problem is they don’t mention anything about how they apply these core values on themselves.

 No one said “I first respect myself and my passion, then respect my family, then respect my society, and then respect everyone at work. No one said I'm fair with myself first. I'm honest with myself first. I'm fair with myself firstand I am responsible of myself.

 I believe that before we look at the world around us and apply those good values at work, we need first to treat ourselves ethically.

 First you need apply this to yourself, before you can it elsewhere.

 The ethics assessment always focus on your actions in different situations with others not ourselves.

 To make it easy, did you ask yourself these questions?

 Am I fair with myself? Do I get a fair price for my services?

 Am I responsible of my own happiness? What about my peace of mind? What about decisions that I take or not take to make myself happy and healthy?

 Do I respect myself and build a good brand for myself? Do I influence everyone to give me the respect I deserve?

 Am I honest with myself about what I capable to do or not to do?

 You need to sit with yourself and prepare a list of questions. After that, you need to make a cup of coffee and sit in quite place to start your journey inside yourself

 Possibly you will discover that the world outside yourself makes it difficult to treat yourself ethically.

 The question here is, if you don’t treat yourself ethically, how can you do this with others?

 I'm not psychologist, but I'm a professional like all of you. I found that in order to make everyone happy, I forget to treat myself ethically. I was working on more than I could do, or accept attacks on my personal respect, or not being responsible enough on myself. I decided to change and be ethical with myself first before I do this with others. I believe that if I can't do this with myself I can't offer these values to others.

If work and society, don’t allow you to implement the values that you believe in, how can they expect you to give back to them?

 Start your self-discovery journey today, not tomorrow. After you fix the weakness go to the world stronger, bolder and more ethically.

 This is what I believe.  The discussion is now about treating yourself first, and then others”